By: Dena Simmons
[This is part of our Community Policy Blog series where local leaders are talking about and solving problems of national significance. It is the second in a series of posts by Dena on parent accountability. Last week, Dena asked the question, “How do we get parents involved?” This week she provides some answers based on her own experiences as a middle school teacher in the Bronx.]
In low-income neighborhoods in the inner cities and in rural areas, parents have less flexibility to attend parent-teacher conferences, to chaperone trips, or to volunteer in the classroom because they have to work long hours to bring money home to make end’s meet. While some parents may be unavailable to attend parent/teacher conferences or to get involved with school governance, other parents, who may be available, feel disempowered because they cannot speak English or because their own experiences in school have been negative, and they have no faith in what school has to offer to them or to their children.
The problem of getting parents involved then becomes three-fold. First, how do we make parent/teacher conferences and school meetings more accessible to parents? Second, how do we create a welcoming environment to support non-English speaking parents? Last, how do we change the mindset of parents who have no faith in school? The first two problems are easier to solve. To solve the first problem, schools should schedule more meeting times for school functions so that there are more opportunities for parents to be involved. To solve the second problem, schools should send material home to students in more than one language so that all parents could read the material and feel included in the school’s discourse. On conferences and meetings at the school, the school should hire translators for every language represented at the school as well as offer English classes for parents as a way to empower them and engage them in school affairs. By working on the first two problems I identified, we could move in the right direction of supporting and of encouraging parent involvement. My solutions are not original. Educators discovered these solutions a while ago already. The problem is that these solutions are not always practiced or implemented in schools, which is unfortunate.
The last problem is the hardest to solve. Is it possible to change someone’s negative experience in school that has caused him or her to have no faith in schooling at all? Is it possible to change someone’s mindset? There are no easy answers or solutions, but something needs to be done to engage these disillusioned parents in the schooling process. One solution could be to provide monetary incentives for these parents to come to school, but I hate the idea of extrinsic motivation so I would not propose this. Sadly, I actually believe if parents, who are mostly poor, knew that they would receive some money to show up for a meeting with their kid’s teacher, they might just show up. When a child sees his or her parent in school, no matter if the parent has been paid or not to be there, the child learns that his or her parents is invested in his life and in his learning. We all know that parents should come to their child’s school not because they are getting paid to do so but because they genuinely care about what their child is learning.
Another solution, which would be harder to implement, is to mandate that parents attend parent/teacher conferences (with flexible meeting times, of course) and a certain number of parent association meetings per year. If the government could hold principals, teachers, and students accountable to their learning, why can’t we hold parents accountable too? Why is there nothing in place to make sure that parents are doing their jobs? Besides feeding children, providing a warm, non-abusive, and loving shelter to their children, and making sure children go to school, being involved with the child’s school and in the child’s education should be just as much a part of the list of responsibilities of a parent. Why should I have high-stakes test judge my effectiveness as an educator? Why should the principal, the student, and I take all the blame for a student’s academic failures when their parents have just as much of a role in the child’s learning? Where is parent accountability?
We need to hold parents accountable because maybe if we did that, some of my students’ parents would not send their children to school hungry or unkempt. Maybe, my students would not have unmonitored access to suggestive material on the Internet and on the television. Maybe, parents would come to meet with administration when their child gets in a fight at school or cuts class. Maybe, parents would come to pick up their child’s report card. Maybe, some parents would come to school after numerous messages about their child’s late arrivals to school and absences. Maybe, parents would be more involved. Maybe, schools will improve because parents will be involved. Maybe.
On another note, many of my students’ parents who, according to statistics, are considered poor, use the little money they have to buy their students and themselves unnecessary gadgets and products. For example, many of my students have cell phones and not just any cell phones. They have Motorola razors and T-Mobile sidekicks that range in prices from 75 dollars to 300 dollars. Not only that, but most of my students also come to school with the latest Jordan sneakers and name brand clothes. Many of my students have computers and Internet access—of course—so that their parents and they could keep up with the Joneses on Myspace.com.
Being from the Bronx, I know how important it is for people here to show their value and worth through what they have. This is a clear poverty of the mind. Only those who do not have want to show everything they do have. This is sad. What is even more upsetting is that parents tell me that they do not have the money to send their children to low-cost tutoring programs when I suggest they send their children, who need more services than the school could offer, to a tutoring program. Instead, they demand a free program or do not send their children to tutoring at all. Interestingly, these very same parents, who do not have money to pour into their child’s learning, have money to buy their children name brand sneakers and clothes. The value is not placed on school, but on material possessions. Investing in education does not seem to be an option for most of my students’ parents.
Thus, I propose that schools offer courses to parents to teach them how to spend their money wisely among other courses on childhood development and non-culturally biased childrearing so that parents are equipped with the knowledge they need to be good parents. These parent courses should provide parents with knowledge about educational resources available for them and for their children. In other words, schools need to educate parents as much as students. More than that, however, I demand that parents take some ownership of their child’s learning and wellbeing. From my experience, the problem with inner-city schools seems to be the fact that parents and students, who are mostly poor, seem to feel entitled to getting whatever they want because they are used to getting things for free. That is, when some parents send their child to school, they expect that their child will get everything he or she needs at school and do not necessarily check to make sure that this is the case. They feel no need to get involved because to them, the schools are supposed to be doing their job of educating their children. We know this is not necessarily the case.
This sense of entitlement breeds laziness and hopelessness. At school, my students demand pencils and paper. They demand bus passes. They demand that I bring them snacks for breakfast. They demand and demand and demand some more without thinking they have to work for what they get. In this country, when a person does not make enough money in this country, she or he qualifies for Medicaid, Section 8, food stamps, and other benefits. However, while these social programs are great in theory, they are often abused and mismanaged, costing the local and federal government money they could pour into adequately educating communities. Worst of all, these social programs disable the very people they are supposed to help. Basically, why work when you could collect free money for having children you cannot afford?
As conservative as this may sound, I propose that parents be asked to provide a small and affordable donation based on a sliding scale to their child’s school in an effort to make parents more invested in their children’s schooling. While our taxpayer dollars already fund public schooling, there is still not enough money for schools to function as necessary. That is not to say that some schools do not mismanage money, but if you are a teacher without text books and with needy students like me, you will realize that you, the teacher, have to spend money out your own pocket to ensure student learning. With that said, the school fees could go towards educational trips, teacher professional development, classroom supplies, special services and programs for students, guest speakers, and other necessities to improve the school. Because we are talking about public school after all, those parents who cannot afford a donation should be mandated to attend all parent/teacher conferences and to volunteer for two school activities. In other words, these parents could donate their time to their child’s education and to the school instead of their money. Is that so much to ask?
In general, people tend to take care of things on which they spend their hard earned cash. Maybe, if parents had to put money into their children’s schools in the form of a donation, they might feel as though they had a voice and a presence in the school. Maybe, donating to and investing in the school will give parents the confidence they need to demand better books, better teachers, and a better curriculum. Maybe, parents would be more involved because they have invested their money in their child’s school. Maybe. Just maybe.
One counter argument, of course, is that it is unfair to ask low-income parents to donate to a school when they do not have money in the first place. My answer to that is: have you seen the things my students have and the clothes they wear to school? Believe me, if a parent could afford a 275-dollar cell phone and the monthly payments that go along with the phone, then, they could afford a small fee to attend school. Put money where it counts the most, not on futile gadgets that will not get your children out the ghetto and into college. Besides that, if parents know they have invested some of their money into their child’s schooling, the expectation is that the parent will be more likely to make sure their child is getting an adequate education. They would be more likely to get involved to make sure they get the most of their money. Most importantly, they would feel empowered.
Something else that I have noticed from my experience teaching is that many of my student’s parents are young parents. I hate to generalize and say that young parents are not good parents, but statistics about teenage mothers prove that there is a need to combat teenage pregnancy. Teen pregnancy is a critical focus for school health interventions because the population is relatively easy to identify, at significant risk of educational failure from defined circumstances (i.e., pregnancy and child rearing), and lends itself to a health-driven response with a potential revenue stream support (i.e., Medicaid).
I charge the Department of Education with the task of developing a comprehensive plan to address health and educational issues related to teen pregnancy and parenting students. The plan should focus attention on the geographic areas and school regions with the highest number and rates of teenage pregnancy. I propose that this plan include a comprehensive, pre-adolescent and adolescent-focused pregnancy prevention program and that the Department of Education develop partnerships with health care providers to expand availability of adolescent-focused reproductive health care counseling and services, pregnancy and post-partum services, and well-baby care.
This plan should also aim at the enhancement of existing day care resources within and associated with public schools along the lines of an early childhood development model and the improvement of conditions within schools such that all pregnant and parenting students are able to take advantage of the educational and student support resources available. With these measures, I hope that there will be fewer unwanted teen pregnancies and that those children brought into this world by teen mothers will have a better future.
Opponents to this proposal may argue that having pregnant and parenting students in school may give other students ideas of having children, but driving teen mothers out of schools and not allowing them to have an equal opportunity to education can be a Title IX violation. When help, through knowledge building, comes through schools, this is the best of citizens’ tax dollars at work to prevent the expenditure of additional dollars for children of teens. If the government does not provide any support to keep pregnant and parenting teens in school, they will be more apt to have more children that they cannot care for, thus perpetuating the cycle of poverty and other social problems. Point blank: by educating a mother, you are educating the whole family.
My two proposals focus on parenting and the necessity of good, involved parenting. I could have easily become a typical Bronx statistic because everything about my neighborhood told me that there was no future outside my city block. My building was dilapidated. My school was overcrowded. My block was covered in graffiti and dominated by drugs and violence. However, my mother did not allow the many bad messages and negative influences to brainwash my mind. Through her example, she stressed the importance of education; she showed us that she cared, and so my sisters and I cared too. This is why parenting is key. This is why good parenting is even more important. This is why collective schooling and parenting is necessary because it should not be only the teacher’s job to make sure that my students succeed; it should be something we all do.
While individual, good childrearing is powerful, collective parenting and schooling is revolutionary. Children are our present and our future, and for us to only care about our own children and not our neighbor’s children is to do a disservice to our society, as we would probably all like productive individuals living among us. When issues of education and public health and of abuse and discrimination against children come up, we should all get involved. We should all fight the fight because we would want the best for our own children and thus should want the best for other children no matter which part of the world they reside. As a collective unit, we could all make a bigger difference. We should all be walking activists, fighting for all children as we would fight for our very own.
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